Here's why I don't feel sorry for a [certain] majority of HAers

[S_Parc]

All right, I figured it's time to tell HAers, as in the 70% majority zone, why I don't have this bottomless pit of empathy for your respective plights.

Sure, we all have sob stories and all that jazz. I concur, that's the story of really, anyone's life in this world of ours.

Now, over 2.x years ago, I'd gotten married. During my wedding day, Mel and I had security details tailing my dad, throughout the event. In effect, he was *on notice* to not misbehave and make a scene.

Well ... in the end, he couldn't contain himself. After decades of a sh.itty relationship with his son, he tried to ruin the most memorable day of my adult life. As a result of this earlier preparation work, security escorted him out of the facility and he was immediately put on a plane back home. FYI, our ceremony was not in Boston, since Bay State weddings cost a fortune these days.

We made excuses for the crowd that he wasn't feeling well and needed medical assistance. Anyways, the rest of the day went well w/o incident and since that time, I haven't spoken with my father.

So there you have it. A successful son, happily marrying his best friend from college and the most his father could do was to try to ruin that day because he was unsatisfied with his own life.

It's one thing if I were still living with my parent and experiencing that *failed to launch* syndrome and all that buzz of not growing up vs a person who'd actually grown up and made a life for oneself.

[Cornfed]

It is not clear what this has to do with our plight.

[GuyAbroad8293]

It's one thing if I were still living with my parent and experiencing that *failed to launch* syndrome

Congrats, dude. There's still tens of millions of young men who fit that exact definition, "failed to launch". America has failed as a country. No country can survive when you have 30 to 50% of it's young male population basically dropping out of society. And the retarded boomers thinking they can "save" America by replacing their own sons with immigrants is not going to work out very well for them.

After all, who do you think will be working at the retirement homes? A bunch of angry Muslim, Arab, and African immigrants, who blame "old white people" for all their problems. What do you think is going to happen when old white baby boomers are invalid and helpless and dependent on the mercy of these immigrants?

[Winston]

Why are you posting this @S_Parc? To snark at us? Do you get off on trying to down other people? Especially people you don't even know? If so then you are a sick and unhappy man, despite what you claim. Happy healthy people do not post these kind of insulting posts. They try to uplift others and share their happiness with them. Posts like this do no good except rub it in that you hate us. How can you hate people you don't know? Only sick people hate strangers online. You never even met us. You don't even know us. You're crazy man.

Look at me. I have problems but I have inner peace and happiness on the inside, gained from all my spiritual wisdom and insight. That's why when I give advice, I try to make it hopeful and helpful. Like this for example: viewtopic.php?p=309950#p309950
So I don't buy that you are into spirituality, because spiritual people try to help others, not put them down. Only insecure miserable bullies do that, and that's probably what you are.

[Winston]

It is not clear what this has to do with our plight.

It has nothing to do with anything. He just wants us to know that he thinks we are pathetic and he looks down on us. Only an unhappy miserable f**k thinks like that. Happy healthy people do not. Strong people do not either. Happy people try to share their happiness with others, and uplift others too. This man certainly doesn't do that.

[GuyAbroad8293]

It is not clear what this has to do with our plight.

It has nothing to do with anything. He just wants us to know that he thinks we are pathetic and he looks down on us. Only an unhappy miserable f**k thinks like that. Happy healthy people do not. Strong people do not either. Happy people try to share their happiness with others, and uplift others too. This man certainly doesn't do that.

Yes, how can someone hate on the tens of millions of young men who have been f***ed over by this man-hating feminist society? Is he trying to virtue signal that he is better than us because he somehow learned to "fit in" with such a sick society? Virtue signalling is for f***ing faggot SJWs and cucks. Real men have compassion.

[WorldTraveler]

It's one thing if I were still living with my parent and experiencing that *failed to launch* syndrome

Congrats, dude. There's still tens of millions of young men who fit that exact definition, "failed to launch". America has failed as a country. No country can survive when you have 30 to 50% of it's young male population basically dropping out of society. And the retarded boomers thinking they can "save" America by replacing their own sons with immigrants is not going to work out very well for them.

I blame the baby boomer parents for letting their Millennial kids live at home until their 40s and continue to support them with no real job or career.

s_parc what's the point? Did you find an American woman? So are you saying because you found one, that means that anyone else can find an good American woman too?

[Teal Lantern]

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We made excuses for the crowd that he wasn't feeling well and needed medical assistance. ...

Made me think of "perfectly healthy" Hitlery.

[S_Parc]

Look at me. I have problems but I have inner peace and happiness on the inside, gained from all my spiritual wisdom and insight. That's why when I give advice, I try to make it hopeful and helpful. Like this for example: viewtopic.php?p=309950#p309950
So I don't buy that you are into spirituality, because spiritual people try to help others, not put them down. Only insecure miserable bullies do that, and that's probably what you are.

Ok Winnie ... approx 6 mos has past, and I haven't even responded to this thread because I have other stuff going on.

And during that time, at least during month #1, you threatened me with physical violence and someone else reminded you of your physical abuse of your biological son, Angelo ... so much for that wisdom/insight piece.

Well, that sounds like a lot of progress to me.

If anything, the fact that I'm married and that I don't post on this forum regularly, probably says that I have something going on, besides starting fights for the sake of fighting.

In reality, I do believe that many ppl, though not all HAers, but perhaps a significant percent, don't know how to manage their daily lives and spend their time, whining and wasting away on these conundrums.

[S_Parc]

baby boomer parents for letting their Millennial kids live at home until their 40s and continue to support them with no real job or career.
s_parc what's the point? Did you find an American woman? So are you saying because you found one, that means that anyone else can find an good American woman too?

It has nothing to do with American women, it's about doing what you can, with what you've got.

Sure, if MGTOW works for you, do it. If finding a foreign GF, etc, works for you then do it.

[Winston]

@S_Parc
You will receive a warning for lying and slander. I never physically abused anyone. Not my son. I merely said that I spanked him when he hit me when he was two years old and had a terrible temper. Nothing wrong with that. Hitting back is natural, and in this case I hit him on the butt to spank him. Spanking has been a normal tradition for thousands of years. I would trust ancient wisdom over modern American liberalism any day. Furthermore, hitting someone back after they hit you, is not abuse. Look up the word "abuse" in the dictionary if you don't know what it means. I do not randomly hit innocent people for no reason. Everyone knows that. You are a lying prick. No respect for you.

So don't lie about me. You are just trying to see what you want to see, not the truth. You are not unbiased.

I did not threaten you with violence or fighting. I don't even know you. How would we fight? That makes no sense. If I said I wanted to kick your ass, well that's a figure of speech. Wise people can figure out context. They don't take everything literally.

I don't get this thread. What does your dad ruining your wedding have to do with the members on this forum? I don't see the connection. You are an odd man. Please keep your daddy issues to yourself. Don't take your daddy issue problems out on us. You sound dysfunctional and need help.

[S_Parc]

I did not threaten you with violence or fighting. I don't even know you. How would we fight? That makes no sense. If I said I wanted to kick your ass, well that's a figure of speech. Wise people can figure out context. They don't take everything literally.

Ok, you waited quite some time before stating that it was a figure of speech. I guess you've calmed down after a month or two.

I don't get this thread. What does your dad ruining your wedding have to do with the members on this forum? I don't see the connection. You are an odd man. Please keep your daddy issues to yourself. Don't take your daddy issue problems out on us. You sound dysfunctional and need help.

If 80% of the forum had my father ... they would have committed suicide by the age of 17-18 and thus, not be on this forum as of today. I survived and thus, I'm here.

As for daddy issues, today, I'm best of friends with Mel's father, so there are ways of actually addressing it. And no, it doesn't involve trying to reconcile with one's biological father.

As for my prior criticism of you, I have my beliefs and here they are in a summary statement which I wrote some time ago ...

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I believe Winston is J.D. Salinger's Holden Caulfield, from 'Catcher in the Rye', a lifelong angst driven teenager.

When a man crosses the line of 50 (even if he's currently in his late 40s) do you really think that the ordinary (non-psychotic) Chinese woman in PRC, Taiwan, Singapore/Malaysia [ Major Chinese diaspora of SE Asia ], is going to take a non-millionaire aged hipster seriously?

Really, everyone needs to know when to *cut out that crap*, esp as they approach 40+ and now, need to show to women that they're real adult and not some lifelong teenager. Winston hasn't gotten that memo and thus, is in a pattern where over time, it's going to get a lot worse than it was, when he was in his 30s.

If I'm on this forum in 2028 and I hear the same nonsense from WW, then I know his fate ... most Chinese women will shun him and the ones who'll give him some time, will look for ways to manipulate him.

And then, you'll hear all the same tripe ... "All Chinese women are materialistic, etc" but then flip around and talk about spirituality and soulmates. That's Winston's M.O., a delusional person.

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And as for materialistic or psychologically shallow Chinese women, I find this segment on the burgeoning 'rent a friend' industry in the world to be telling. This Chinese woman is rather money oriented and doesn't have empathy if her client actually falls for her but she isn't around for him. And realize, she doesn't offer sex or even a hug/kiss (see 9:42).

[yick]

I certainly think you are misguided if you think you are bagging Winston, S Parc - you don't think he is living the life he chooses? He is definitely living the life he wants and is probably is one of the freest people on this planet - he has f***ed hundreds of women, he doesn't work and still maintains an income, he isn't beholden to anyone and Winston is smarter than the average expat - a fair few of them seeing concrete at a fast rate of knots as they are thrown off a balcony of a high rise apartment they have paid for by the slag they have gotten hitched to (how many thai or filiponos would it take to throw Winston from a high rise balcony - 100? 200? )that will never happen to Winston - no-one will be cleaning him out physically or financially.

Anyway, going back to the general point of your posts, you think you have beaten the system - and in your mind you probably have but for most men on here you haven't - marrying a former lesbian, best friend from college 10 years ago wouldn't be my idea of third prize let alone first but you seem to be happy with it and good for you but you shouldn't forget once you were one of these men who were looking for women abroad to make you happy - that you found someone in The States seems to make you think you can bag others where you were once in their shoes yourself and not so long ago - poor form ol' sport!

Now, bag Winston for lying to you, he might be lying to himself but he could have gotten married long ago if that is what he really wanted, it is obvious now that isn't what he wants, not deep down - he might be being dishonest with himself so call him out on that point - that would be a fair point to call him out on, but he isn't harming you or anyone else, you can believe his BS or you don't have to - and you're definitely wrong about China - see that avatar of Winston's? Well, I see bigger romantic mismatches than that on a daily basis here in China - Winston is still in the shout for a nice looking Chinese woman - he isn't able to shag hundreds like he wants to (without P4P) but he could find a Chinese wife for sure - yes, even now. to think that men of Chinese ethnicity who have American college degrees and US citizenship and a bit of cash couldn't get a woman is absurd - so yes, he is still good to get a woman to marry, lots of women - there are hundreds of millions of women in this country and YES - Winston is still competitive for bagging one.

But I suspect he doesn't want it - he likes his freedoms too much to get tied down.

Which brings me to another point - happier abroad - shouldn't be about women because no woman can bring you happiness because at the end of the day, they're just people like you and me - with faults and shortcomings, and women in China (for example...) just bring you extra sets of challenges - that's it! And being abroad is still the same as being back home in a lot of ways, you still have to work out, bathe daily and smell nice, wear nice clothes, be interested and interesting etc etc to attract women - you can't turn up here in China being unkempt and wanting to play video games all day and women flock to you - you have to make an effort like you do back home. It has took me YEARS to get myself to a point where I am somewhat attractive to the opposite sex - it also took me years to educate myself where I am financially viable - being abroad is great in a lot of ways and in other ways it is more work - that needs to be outlined on a daily basis - if you don't want to improve your worth and sit around getting drunk and playing video games then the flight abroad won't do it.

But Winston has beaten the system - you might be happy with what you have S Parc but you haven't beaten the system like he has - and no amount of you bagging him will change that fact.

[S_Parc]

Ok yick, you've produced the best response to this post up to date. Congrats on that

Now, bag Winston for lying to you, he might be lying to himself but he could have gotten married long ago if that is what he really wanted, it is obvious now that isn't what he wants, not deep down - he might be being dishonest with himself so call him out on that point - that would be a fair point to call him out on

Yes, if Win's being dishonest with himself, instead of a poser, then yes, perhaps he should own up to his true calling.

I always believe that a person should be true to his own nature.

But Winston has beaten the system - you might be happy with what you have S Parc but you haven't beaten the system like he has - and no amount of you bagging him will change that fact.

I don't know, if I didn't want a wife and simply wanted to bang away, I'd have done it, w/o my parents' IRA funding it. Swap Winston with me, in that situation, and one man is dead and the other lives on. So yes, if it weren't Mel, perhaps I would have simply lived off my investments and gotten away w/ being overseas and simply enjoying myself w/ women w/o a commitment. Realize, I had a Brazilian GF in the past and the reason why we broke up was that she couldn't handle the fact that my family was dysfunctional.

I know that today, I'm constantly pursued by women, all over Boston, just because I'm married but yet, I don't feel like cheating on Mel.

viewtopic.php?f=1&t=31007

So there's the real difference.

Sure, you can say that one classmate/former lesbian/best friend is some 3rd rate failure zone, however, if one were actually in love with her and vice versa, then in fact, I'm actually one of the few who'd found 'the one', which I believe, most ppl never do, and thus, did achieve some sort of happiness, abroad or not.

[fdiv]

You need a "tard bin" or equivalent for unproductive posts.