Parents Who Need Classes in How to Be Parents
Posted: July 4th, 2017, 3:12 pm
Does anyone else feel that certain parents need classes or to be taught how to be parents. I'm discussing particularly the BoomerEgghead generation here, who I find most selfish, bad parenting. The new parents at least I see they love their children, and don't talk down to them or treat them like property or a status symbol. So much of the selfish materialist boomers are like this and it disgusts me. I had to work through it - and still am, in my own life. My parents weren't perfect and there's all types of different parenting. It seems hard to hit the mark. Parenting is something you must dedicate your time and aim to, just like anything else. So many of the Boomers had kids and just treated them like garbage, didn't respect their feelings or growth, took out their anger and frustrations on them, and generally abuse their power over their kids. The worst sin.
I tried not to get frustrated about this, because a tree needs roots to grow and I don't want to provide the roots, but it is damn hard, at times to finegle yourself out or say anything is ok.
What I'm particularly talking about are a couple of things. Parents who completely aren't accepting of their child's emotions and don't allow them at all, they try to not let them feel anything at all, unless it's good or positive... that kind of thing. I had parents like that, mostly it was my Mom though. She thought everyone and everything should be happy all the time, and we weren't allowed to feel anything.
The other thing is overcontrol or helicoptering. That really damages a kid and shuts down their growth potential in so many ways.
Why do parents f**k up something that is so easy? It's basic to understand that like a plant, a child needs to grow and be supported, guided, fed, but most importantly - supported and given room and direction.
Not bossed, not abused, not stifled, not controlled, dictated, yelled at, mocked, ridiculed, invalidated, shut down, guilted, shamed or any other of the f***ed up things our so called "parents" do to us, in selfishness.
It would be amazing to have completely unselfish parents who were focused on your growth and happiness potential. Does anyone have this, does it even exist?
People suck. You have to keep the channel open and it's both parent and kids responsibility to do that, as difficult and strained as that is sometimes. When people are abused they shut down. I also think it's harder for children who were overcontrolled or who may have felt helplessness.
I tried not to get frustrated about this, because a tree needs roots to grow and I don't want to provide the roots, but it is damn hard, at times to finegle yourself out or say anything is ok.
What I'm particularly talking about are a couple of things. Parents who completely aren't accepting of their child's emotions and don't allow them at all, they try to not let them feel anything at all, unless it's good or positive... that kind of thing. I had parents like that, mostly it was my Mom though. She thought everyone and everything should be happy all the time, and we weren't allowed to feel anything.
The other thing is overcontrol or helicoptering. That really damages a kid and shuts down their growth potential in so many ways.
Why do parents f**k up something that is so easy? It's basic to understand that like a plant, a child needs to grow and be supported, guided, fed, but most importantly - supported and given room and direction.
Not bossed, not abused, not stifled, not controlled, dictated, yelled at, mocked, ridiculed, invalidated, shut down, guilted, shamed or any other of the f***ed up things our so called "parents" do to us, in selfishness.
It would be amazing to have completely unselfish parents who were focused on your growth and happiness potential. Does anyone have this, does it even exist?
People suck. You have to keep the channel open and it's both parent and kids responsibility to do that, as difficult and strained as that is sometimes. When people are abused they shut down. I also think it's harder for children who were overcontrolled or who may have felt helplessness.