Why can't Winston ... simply be happy, banging hoes?

[S_Parc]

In all honesty, I don't get it.

If I weren't settled down with a terrific person today, that's exactly what I'd do. Really, a vast majority of women, simply aren't worth one's time or energy.

My good friend, Bosstone, is banging hoes and is doing rather well in life. He's in his 50s and doesn't bother dating anymore and he also doesn't post on boards like this one.

In place of the above, Win is constantly seeking some spiritual a/o metaphysical arrangements with women but then, is constantly getting disappointed or hoodwinked, time and time again. Isn't there a point where one says ... "Hey, I'm not 33 anymore. I need to start to live life ... knowing that Ponce De Leon's immortality in the body, isn't in the cards?"

C'mon, he's now in his mid-40s and thus, is somewhat set in his ways. Is it really feasible to be living in the soulmate M.O., after that epoch of one's life?

[chanta76]

Anyone can bang hoes if you pay them. You can find hoes in every country and don't have to travel. I imagine some guys are satisfied with this type of relationship maybe mostly older guys who been burnt in the past and don't want to bother with relationship.

The problem with hoes is that end of the day they don't really care about you. Your just another guy to them.

For some guys they still want that connection and love. But in reality that's hard to find.

[gnosis]

S_Parc, Winston is kind of a hopeless romantic. He keeps looking for "the one," not realizing that if he actually found "the one," he'd soon get bored of her.

[S_Parc]

The problem with hoes is that end of the day they don't really care about you. Your just another guy to them.

For some guys they still want that connection and love. But in reality that's hard to find.

Here's the thing, if you're over 40, do you really care? Is your self-esteem so tied to be 'approved' by the opposite gender?

Today, I'm settled down but yet, hounded by women, all over the greater Boston/New England area, because I'm *not available*.

Really, do I care about this recent, *George Clooney* status, among northeast corridor women? It's almost like they'd waited all this years for Mel to take me away from them, just to get 'em to fight over me. Seriously, that's pathetic.

[MustVisitAsia123]

Banging women all day isn't a fulfilling life. It's the same as pointless entertainment like drugs, video games and etc. If that's all someone has then of course the person wouldn't be happy. They COULD be happy if they have other traits like a loving family, self acceptance and etc.

[MarcosZeitola]

Winston will be 80, popping Viagra to keep himself going and STILL bang hoes. He will also still be looking for true love. He's going to keel over one day at 86, mid-coitus with an Angeles girl who could be his great-granddaughter, and until the second the light leaves his eyes he will not have given up on love.

Somehow, I admire him for that persistence.

[chanta76]

S_parc,

I don't think it's about approval but I imagine some guys do want that but it's more about having a deeper connection . I don't know if you have a partner or not. It's about having someone that would get you . Imagine after hard day work you come home and you have someone that can comfort you and understand you. In reality finding a partner like that is hard.


I think Winston is a guy who wants his cake too. Even if he finds his partner as someone else mentioned he will always look for someone else for any number of reason. I think for some guys they want the perfect partner if there is such a thing plus have option to be able to sleep and see other 'hot' looking girls but come back to that great partner end of the day. That's fantasy and I think for guys looking for this will never be able to find this. I mean as a man I understand but you have to be a realist.

[NorthAmericanguy]

Anyone can bang hoes if you pay them. You can find hoes in every country and don't have to travel. I imagine some guys are satisfied with this type of relationship maybe mostly older guys who been burnt in the past and don't want to bother with relationship.

The problem with hoes is that end of the day they don't really care about you. Your just another guy to them.

For some guys they still want that connection and love. But in reality that's hard to find.

The same could be said for a wife. Just because a woman is your wife/gf, that doesn't mean that she really cares about you either.

I just don't understand how males overlook this? Most women marry for security, status, and financial support no matter how much they try and spin it that it's all about love and romance.

[MarcosZeitola]

I just don't understand how males overlook this? Most women marry for security, status, and financial support no matter how much they try and spin it that it's all about love and romance.

If a man is this cynical about love, marriage and relationships, then why would he even bother? This is the type of attitude that is most compatible with a life of whoring and hedonism but not with much else.

[NorthAmericanguy]

Banging women all day isn't a fulfilling life. It's the same as pointless entertainment like drugs, video games and etc. If that's all someone has then of course the person wouldn't be happy. They COULD be happy if they have other traits like a loving family, self acceptance and etc.

I have been on both sides.. My life when I had girlfriends was boring and my girlfriend's were more trouble than they were worth. As a boyfriend to different American women it was all about them all while I got sex mostly when they wanted it with limitations or pressure to be more committed.

I had no heartbreak, since day one dating as a teen I hated it not knowing why but went along with it because everybody else was doing it.

To be fair, I might enjoy being a boyfriend to a foreign girl as they cook and really take care of their men in other countries from what I have seen.

On the other hand, jumping in the bed with different beautiful women (sometimes 2 at the same time) is so fun and exhilarating it's rediclous! It's comparable to sky diving or bungy jumping I suppose.

[NorthAmericanguy]

I just don't understand how males overlook this? Most women marry for security, status, and financial support no matter how much they try and spin it that it's all about love and romance.

If a man is this cynical about love, marriage and relationships, then why would he even bother? This is the type of attitude that is most compatible with a life of whoring and hedonism but not with much else.

Yes, I'm a hedonist, but I'm also a realist. Women marry for security and financial reasons, that's not cynicism, that's just the reality.

[Pinayhunter]

My only issue with hookers is the expense. $300/hour (the going rate in Canada) is INSANE. An hour of sex just isn't worth 2 days of workceling... no matter how hot or accommodating she is.

[NorthAmericanguy]

In all honesty, I don't get it.

If I weren't settled down with a terrific person today, that's exactly what I'd do. Really, a vast majority of women, simply aren't worth one's time or energy.

My good friend, Bosstone, is banging hoes and is doing rather well in life. He's in his 50s and doesn't bother dating anymore and he also doesn't post on boards like this one.

In place of the above, Win is constantly seeking some spiritual a/o metaphysical arrangements with women but then, is constantly getting disappointed or hoodwinked, time and time again. Isn't there a point where one says ... "Hey, I'm not 33 anymore. I need to start to live life ... knowing that Ponce De Leon's immortality in the body, isn't in the cards?"

C'mon, he's now in his mid-40s and thus, is somewhat set in his ways. Is it really feasible to be living in the soulmate M.O., after that epoch of one's life?

I have a friend in his 50s who went through a nasty divorce (lost everything) and at his age he's still looking for love. He has a good job, new car and enough money to p4p, but for him, it just doesn't make him happy.

His personality is totally different from mine. He's very needy and derives great pleasure from female validation.

[cdnFA]

I have heard it more than once that the monger life gets old over time. I don't mean going at it a few times a week but mongering constantly. It just starts to feel empty.

As Sarah Silverman says about weed, keep it a treat. I am sure everyone here has done something enough to grind it into the ground and make it a meh, even bacon for every meal would get old soon enough. Once a week or once a month and it retains it's full charms.

Also say you go at it for 2 one hour sessions every day. 8 hours sleep, that still leaves 14 hours left over.
Sure you can fill it with hobbies but we are social animals and we have drives.

[S_Parc]

Imagine after hard day work you come home and you have someone that can comfort you and understand you. In reality finding a partner like that is hard.

There's a reason why I'd been mentioning Mel, less and less over time. It's obvious to me that I'd hit the jackpot and have someone great in my life.

At the same time, I don't see it around me for over 80+% of the population, who're basically miserable and look forward to getting away from the wife than in spending time with her.

In fact, when we do couples' things, we tend to go out with older couples, typically a decade or so older than us because the younger ones are rather jealous of our long term successful friendship/partnership/etc. And the fact that I'm 100% in demand by many women out there, gives me a sense that many of them have a homebreaker's mentality which makes it hard for single men to date since these women would rather steal a married man.

Put the above together & Win should just accept reality. He hit the big *45* and is no longer a kid. Playing with Star Wars (or fill-in-your-show) toys and action figures, a.k.a soulmate-itis, is for the younger and more idealistic crowd. BTW, I'd donated my Darth Vader doll and cheap light saber. Seriously, Star Wars VII sucks and the genre is done! RIP.