smallcheese wrote:If a man chooses to have or not have children, that is his personal choice. No need to judge anyone who makes a personal choice.
However, if you do have children but you fail to take full responsibility for the life that you bring into this world, then I will judge you. Most people on this board will probably not say anything to you but I will because you claim to be a seeker of truth. Winston, IMHO you are a hypocrite. You have no credibility on this subject. If you truly didn't want children, why did you father a child? Why didn't you have a vasectomy, which would have been the best thing to do if you did not want to have children?
Who are you to advocate that men should not have children? Why should anyone listen to you when you have your own son that you've left behind in the care of his mother. From what I understand, you provide financial support but that's it. You might visit once in a while, give gifts, take them to dinner, etc. but after awhile you leave again. Abdicating your responsibilities as a father to your son, except for the financial one. While you travel the world being happier abroad, you've left your son to be raised by his mother, indoctrinating and brainwashing him to her values.
Boys who are raised mostly by their mother usually grow up to be screwed up. At a minimum, they become another mangina in the world, endlessly white knighting women and putting them on a pedestal. Your son is already showing signs of being brainwashed. In another thread he calls you a playboy when he sees your picture. How much will he resent you or hate you after he grows up?
I have no respect for anyone who fails to take full responsibility for a life that they brought into this world. Your child didn't ask to be brought into this world. A man always has a choice and a real man takes full, not partial responsibility for the consequences of the choices that he makes. At least you're not as bad as many Filipino men, who father children and give absolutely no support to the children they bring into the world. At least you provide financial support.
I'm quite sure that you will relentlessly attack me for expressing this opinion and rationalize the choices that you've made. And your rationalization will go on and on and on and on..... But you can't change the truth.
Instead of calling your web site HappierAbroad, maybe you should change it to: SelfishlyHappierAbroad
You are unduly judgmental and an example of why we should avoid Americans like you who like to judge negatively.
Everyone makes mistakes. It's a part of life. As a father, I am in a position to know better than non-fathers about the consequences of having children. I am merely telling the truth about it. If anything I said it incorrect, please point it out. But judging like this isn't going to do anything.
In some ways I may be hypocritical. But who isn't? Life is full of double standards. Men who do p4p would not want their daughters or sisters to be hoes. What's new? Hardly anyone is an angel or saint.
But at least I tell the truth with no BS. That's better than most guys. What I said about the consequences of children above is true. What's wrong with telling the truth?
I'm sorry, but I can't be something I'm not. I've explained that before. Why is that hard for you to understand? Being a stay at home father with no freedom would not make me happy. It's not me. I would not feel alive. And I do not believe in enslaving myself to someone else just because it's the right thing to do or society says so. I'd rather be free and "immoral" than "moral" and totally enslaved with no freedom. It's a no brainer.
Sorry if you don't like that. But that's the way it is. I never claimed to be a saint or angel. But I am honest at least and do not BS like most guys do.