djfourmoney wrote:S_Parc wrote:Jacaré wrote:I might reconsider it in 10 years from now when I've found a truly wonderful woman that I can have a deep connection with and who won't bore me and be nagging. Only time will tell as to whether such a woman is out there...
IMHO, don't count on this happening.
Marriage and dare I say relationships with the opposite sex is not for every male.
My general philosophy is that the expression "hindsight is 20/20", is a type of cop out/rationalization, after the fact. Instead, I'd rather go with the *foresight is 20/40*, not always correct but has a wide angle of truth to it.
For better or worse, most guys who visit HA are individualists. We may pretend to conform to mainstream behaviors [ to get a job, be invited to a b-ball team, etc ] but on the inside, we don't truly care for the rituals of conformity. With that stated, here's what I've seen in successful, happy marriages ... both parties tend to have very similar backgrounds. I've seen this with well-adjusted Armenian-American, Cambodian-American, Born Again Christian, and Orthodox Jewish couples in New England. They have very similar outlooks and have coherent plans for their children. And likewise, if I'd wanted to marry my Brazilian ex-GF, I would have wanted to fit into the whole proper Catholic *extended family* thing of mainstream Brazilians. For me, that was not a proper fit so I opted out. And I have nothing bad to say about my ex-GF, she's a fine woman and would make the right person happy.
Thus, I'd say that since many fellas here have gone their own way since turning 18, what are the chances that they'd want to change themselves, join a type of singular focus group, just to have the high percentage successful marriage? You see, I don't believe that it's likely and thus, using foresight is 20/40, I'd estimate that many fellas here may never be happily married and may be better off either having periodic GFs or seeing esc@rts from time to time. With that said, if a person is willing to learn Portuguese and is adept at dealing with the politics of large families [ and the fact that you just can't "whisk 'em way" ], then by all means, move to Brazil, find yourself a bride, and start a family.